Side Guys x Valltees

Supporting Authenticity and Self-Expression.

This bold, unapologetic collection celebrates Side identity and pleasure beyond penetration. Inspired by the work of therapist and author Dr. Joe Kort who coined the term "Side", this collection is about visibility, humor, and pride for the often-overlooked role of the Side in queer culture. We believe every identity deserves to be seen, celebrated, and worn proudly — and this collaboration makes space for just that.

The Side Guys movement began as a response to the narrow definitions of sexual identity within the gay community — specifically the top/bottom binary that often excludes those who find connection and pleasure outside of penetrative sex. In 2013, psychotherapist and sexologist Dr. Joe Kort coined the term “Side” to describe gay men who prefer non-penetrative intimacy. His work, rooted in LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy and deep experience with male sexuality, gave language to a previously unnamed experience — and helped legitimize it. Since then, the term has grown into a movement that embraces visibility, diversity, and choice, expanding what it means to live authentically and love freely as a queer person.

Want to learn more about being a Side?

Side Guys: It's Still Sex Even if You Don't Have Intercourse: Non-Penetrative Sex Comes Out of the Closet is a powerful resource for anyone exploring or identifying with the Side experience. The book offers insight, validation, and perspective on non-penetrative sex — challenging stigma and expanding how we define intimacy in queer relationships.