The Side Guys movement began as a response to the narrow definitions of sexual identity within the gay community — specifically the top/bottom binary that often excludes those who find connection and pleasure outside of penetrative sex. In 2013, psychotherapist and sexologist Dr. Joe Kort coined the term “Side” to describe gay men who prefer non-penetrative intimacy. His work, rooted in LGBTQIA+ affirmative therapy and deep experience with male sexuality, gave language to a previously unnamed experience — and helped legitimize it. Since then, the term has grown into a movement that embraces visibility, diversity, and choice, expanding what it means to live authentically and love freely as a queer person.

Curious to explore Side identity and queer intimacy more deeply?

The Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast features open, stigma-free conversations about sexuality, identity, and relationships — including non-penetrative sex and the Side experience. With expert guests and real talk, it's a great way to dive into topics that challenge norms and expand how we define connection and pleasure.

Looking to connect with others who identify as Sides?

The Side Guys Facebook Group is a welcoming space to share stories, ask questions, and explore non-penetrative intimacy with others who get it. Founded with support from therapist and author Dr. Joe Kort, the group offers community, visibility, and a sense of belonging for anyone who’s ever felt left out of the top/bottom binary.